“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring
to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source,
you will truly have defeated age.” — Sophia Loren
My mother is 82 and I’m 61.
We were reflecting on how some ages like 49 and 69 sound so much younger than 50 and 70.
But then we decided to change our attitude. It’s truly an imaginary difference and only matters if we let it.
Psychologists have proven that our brains can be programmed to accept something like ‘I’m old because society tells me I’m old at 60″ and to act accordingly. Personally I don’t think I am old (older yes, old no) and therefore need a bit of programming because I certainly don’t want to become one of those who, due to preconceived ideas become the one who believes I cant do something therefore I cannot.
The wrong attitude reminds me of a story Gavin de Becker tells:
“When young, circus elephants are
attached by heavy chains to large stakes
driven deep into the ground. They pull
and yank and strain and struggle, but the
chain is too strong, the stake too rooted.
One day they give up, having learned that
they cannot pull free, and from that day
forward they can be ‘chained’ with a
slender rope. Because it believes it
cannot, it cannot. ”
I like that last line from the quote: “Because it believes it cannot, it cannot.”
The same goes for age. If you believe you’re too old, then you’re too old.
Marcus my Spanish tutor says he sees this all the time; An imaginary barrier
of what is possible. People underestimate what they are capable of with a language.
As Sophia Loren said at the start … “When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.”
Throw any ideas of age barriers out of your mind now.
Go well till the next time