We really are a bunch of moaners aren’t we?
We don’t like our saggy skin and stiff joints, moan that we don’t have the energy we once had etcetera etcetera! However, in recent years because of our Boomer bubble, there have been an increasing number of professional studies into ageing, especially in America, and it seems that retirement years – whether we are working part time or fully retired – retirement can be the promised “time of our lives.”
To ensure that we get this time of our lives being able to accept who we are is tantamount to our happiness. To fully be happy we need to accept that we are older. Ha! as I see it, there really is nothing we can do about it anyway, each year will make us older, so it’s easier to live with it and get on with life. And the studies tell us we will in actual fact be a whole lot happier once we acknowledge this fact.
Ken Eisold, a Past-President of the International Society for the Psychoanalystic Study of organisations and a founding member of the Organsation Program at the William Alanson White Institute, says that as we age, we focus more and more on who we are rather than who we need to become. “We relax into being ourselves,” he said. “This acceptance brings diminished anxiety and a higher degree of enjoyment.”
The American Psychological Association explains that despite worries about ill health, income, changes in social status and bereavements, we learn to avoid situations which make us feel sad or stressed and this means we are happier people! This acceptance by most of us stems from the realisation that our quota of time is running out. We begin to savour the everyday pleasures that surround us without the need for adrenaline rushes and extra-ordinary experiences to prove who we are, as do the younger set.
One of the UK’s respected neuroscience and health writer reckons that the older we get, the happier we become. Her studies show that there appear to be two major peaks of life-satisfaction; she thinks the ages of 23 and 69 specifically are our happiest years.
I’ll agree I was happy enough at 23 for sure but I’m not sure if it was happier than at 24 or 25 but I’m no scientist! but I kind agree that I am able to let go, relax and enjoy the ride now as I head off towards 69 (in quite a few years) so does that mean I’m in denial still? Oops!
So till the next time Go Well